Starseeds: On Belonging (Pt. II)

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To the outliers

A couple weeks ago I wrote an article about how living in our purpose (i.e., doing things that make us really happy, so we’re emitting our light strongest and shining our soul codes best) can help Starseeds feel a sense of belonging. As beings that have incarnated from beyond Gaia (pleides, sirius, arcturus, lyran star systems, etc), we don’t have the same origins as souls on earth. This origin-based truth leaves us feeling notoriously disconnected and alone during our time here on this planet.

In this second part of my musings on belonging (find the first part here), I wanted to go more deeply into the “why” that lies behind our loneliness. We, as Starseeds, know we feel lonely. It’s constant. It’s pervasive. If we’re not careful, it can become a deeply powerful narrative for how we construct our life.

Because, let’s face it: Unless you’re partnered with a starseed (sweet), are best friends with a starseed (even sweeter) or have a parent who happens to be a starseed or at least metaphysically inclined to understand the existence of Starseeds on the planet (extremely sweet and rare), we as Starseeds live a deeply isolated existence for the majority (most) of our lives. I wish I could tell you that it’s different — that you’re going to click your heels and find yourself a circle of starseeds who are not only awake to their mission and are doing the work on their self development to address their layers of complexity and trauma that comes from being a multi-dimensional being on this planet. If you’re reading this, however, chances are you’re an adult — which means you’re most likely a millennial or older — which means that finding yourself surrounded by a bunch of conscious, ascended starseeds is unlikely in this lifetime. Sorry, cutie!

But Why Not?

Well, I’m glad you asked. (Or I rhetorically decided you asked).

There’s one thing that as Starseeds tumbling around on Planet Gaia we tend to get deeply lost with: That we’re here, as volunteers, on a mission. If you’re a Starseed who is particularly tired, worn out and has had little to no support throughout your lifetime (GenXers, I’m talking especially to you), you may even roll your eyes at this. So What if we’re on a mission? Can’t we still have people that understand us and see us for who we truly are? Do we have to feel like oddball aliens at every single social event we go to? Don’t we deserve to fit in?

Well, yes, and… erm, no.

There are a couple of things at play here:

1. The Galactic Federation (my guides — yes, I can tell you right now you definitely don’t envy me. They’re as strict as they sound and wouldn’t know a joke if it hit them in the forehead) is much more interested in the efficiency of the mission (i.e, getting enough Starseed souls to vibrate at a frequency that helps raise the collective vibration of the planet) than they are about the details and ‘nuances’ of human life. Is human connection a detail the Federation overlooked? Absolutely.

(They say no; I say hell yes.).

Even though human connection is something we crave as part of the human experience, we are living as galactic souls in a human body. (This fact undoubtedly makes my guides roll their eyes — they don’t like ‘nuanced’ loopholes). So, yes, this is a slight oversight to have underestimated the importance of allowing Starseeds to have some sort of deeper tie to Gaia and the life she supports. We’re visitors here — and when were were here as Mayans, Egyptians, Atlantians.. We lived in our own communities. With babies. And elders. And partners.

What is true now, though, is this: we are galactic beings having a human experience, and so ensuring that we get enough human connection is absolutely, uncompromisingly required. (Even if you are the most introverty of the introverts, you still need human connection and contact. It’s just a fact, there, humanoid).

If we incarnated at a time where we basically got to live in a festival-like state where all Starseed souls could see and contact each other constantly, we would probably get right to work at creating our own utopia of community and would leave all the more ancient humans in the dust (or in the crumbling urban centres, more like. {Bad Joke!!}) This would do literally nothing to help humanity. Sure, our own utopias would have clean water and fresh food and happy babies, but we wouldn’t be doing much to help the planet as a collective if we went off in our own little group, now, would we?

We’ve all been exposed to cliques. They suuuuuck. So the starseeds who are currently here on the planet are well-enough dispersed that we’re lucky enough to come across one another often enough to know we’re not completely alone (this is new, thanks to the ascending consciousness of the planet and increase in Starseed souls over time), but not so often that we’re in danger of making a ‘Gaian utopian clique’ and leaving the rest of the humans in the dust (ahem, urban centres). Not very efficient.

2. The other thing at play here is that truthfully, and honestly, Starseeds are first and foremost warriors. (I mention what I mean by that word in my article about being a Starseed here.) Again, this is the galactic federation slightly forgetting how to have fun, (sorrynotsorry) but our mission here on earth is one that is based in courage, bravery, and love. It’s not really based in connection and friendship. I know, I know. This is extremely problematic when we’ve got a bunch of starseeds wandering around on earth super confused about why they’re here and feeling lonely as hell. It’s not easy, it’s not fun, and it sure as hell doesn’t feel like a badge of honour most of the time.

So, naturally, I asked my guides what they had to say on the matter. Here is what came through:

As starseeds on this planet in this day and age you are very lucky to live in ‘the age of connection.’ We assumed, that because you all can find anything you’d like on the internet, that you would have made sure to find enough of the others through this medium. It is not essential that you feel bonded with another Starseed in your daily life, but if the artists, writers, musicians and motivators (they mean influencers) you admire can be of Starseed origin, we highly recommend that. Do not look to other humans for examples on the internet. Look to other Starseeds.

… For many of you, this is going to be a moment of reading what you already know. Most of us don’t consciously resonate with older souls on the internet — unless they have specific knowledge or guidance to give us about something we need help with (cue: old-soul astrologers and modern psychologists). It doesn’t really answer the question of our loneliness.

So, I probed further; and asked a different guide. Here is what one of my other (gentler) guides responded with:

My child, part of the human condition is understanding how to forge and nurture human connection. If we gave you all of the tools you needed and connected you to beings you desired from the beginning of your journey, we would be doing a disservice to humanity at large, as you would never understand the depth of meaning that comes from genuine human connection. We want you to walk amongst humans, to feel the humanity you have been missioned to embody. This required connection is essential to human life. For us, we are not used to having to create it actively — because we are always in a state of union and connection with one another in our lightest forms. The density of the human body requires that you make an effort to connect to one another. This effort reminds you of your place in the natural cycle of belonging. Your soul may not feel like you are in the right place, child, but your earthly spirit does. Connect with the land, the animals and the people there. This will bring you closer to your highest alignment.

… I really do love that guide.

So, in short, here’s the thing

Yes, the pervasive feeling of deep loneliness that accompanies being a Starseed is unfortunately a reality. (Although, at least we’re all in it together??)

We will always struggle with feeling a little out of place, a little unusual, a little… out there.

And, this detail teaches us an essential part of the human experience that we may otherwise have missed.

Learning how important human connection for me not only catalyzed the biggest change in the general compass of my life, (from avoiding people to actively seeking connection) but it also drew me to meet other Starseeds. (go figure!)

After having moved to a new town in 2022 — within a year I had met over eight starseeds; five of which were in my immediate social circle. Five. I didn’t end up staying in this town in the end — which was equal parts bittersweet and required for my soul’s evolution, but my point is that actively seeking human connection took me from feeling completely isolated to having more starseeds in the same room than I had ever spoken to simultaneously online.

Making the effort to learn, understand and seek human connection may be the quickest antidote to loneliness as a Starseed we’ve got.

I mean, we’ve been lonely this long — so what have we got to lose?

Oh, and jah bless the internet. Big ‘whattup’ to all the other Starseeds out there doing their thing on the great viral ocean. I see you, I acknowledge you, I honour you.

Kiaratarawe.